One of the common things that I see when you guys write in is that many of you are in relationships with guys who really don't respect you. And the worst part about it, is that because of how our culture is, you don't realize it, or you don't realize that you deserve better.
This just breaks my heart. Honestly, girls, you deserve the best. And that is especially true in the area of dating and relationships. See, many of you have been hurt in the past. Maybe it was a bad relationship that really damaged your self esteem, regardless, you have allowed yourself to believe these lies, "I don't deserve to be treated better than this." or "This is the best I am going to get, so I might as well accept it." or even, "All guys are like this.".
Here me very carefully, do not believe those lies any longer. I know that is easier said than done. But allow me to share some truths with you.
~ You are beautiful.
~ You are deserving.
~ You are worth it.
Does that look familiar? It should, scroll up and check out the photo at the top of the page. This is the truth ladies. Any guy that doesn't see you for who you really are and treat you with real love and respect, is not the right guy for you.
You deserve to be loved. You deserve a guy who respects you and sees you as more than just an object or a trophy to show off to his friends. You deserve a guy who will listen to you and take time to care about your dreams and goals in life. You deserve a guy who is completely loyal to you and doesn't allow himself to flirt with other girls or cheat on you. You deserve a guy who encourages you and takes care of you. You deserve a guy who speaks to you with kindness and doesn't ever yell at you. You deserve a guy who is committed enough to work through the struggles and stay with you when things get difficult.
You are probably thinking, "This is all well and good Sarah, but there aren't any guys like that out there.". That's a fair statement, but I don't think it's true. There are guys like this out there. The thing is, they usually don't mature into this kind of man until they are out of high school. Not every guy is the same, they all mature a little bit differently, but for the most part, the guys in your school are not ready for this kind of relationship.
This is why I encourage young women to wait until after high school to date. Generally, us girls are looking for real relationships a lot sooner than guys are. We think about meeting a guy and being with him forever way before guys start considering it. It's just because we are wired differently, and it's normal. But you can save yourself from a potentially horrible relationship or horrible breakup by not dating in high school.
There is so much more about this that I could say, but I will hold off for now. Maybe my next post will be a continuation of this one.
In the meantime, please feel free to head to the "contact me" page and send me a message if you want to talk! I look forward to it!